Trust The Process

So today I want to write about Trusting the Process and what to do when we get that feeling of being stuck. When you think to yourself ‘What do I do now? It feels like I am spinning my wheels. I push here, there, everywhere and nothing is taking me forward.’

Here are some ideas:

STOP!  Acknowledge where you are. Make room for Divine Timing.  God’s ‘clock’ and yours happen to be different. When the conditions are right, the right thing will happen. Not necessarily in the way you expected.  Your expectations of when and how things ought to happen may not be the way it works out. In fact, insisting on having it your way is much more likely to frustrate you and stress you out. That’s one sure way to virtually guarantee you will miss the answer to your questions. So let go and let God. Keep a soft eye. Trust the process.

STOP!  Acknowledge yourself: where you’ve been, what you’ve done, what you’ve accomplished, your successes, your failures and the wisdom you gained along the way. Truly acknowledge your own AWESOMENESS.

Contemplate this passage from A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson, then contemplate it some more.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

STOP!  A seedling, when it grows too fast, grows tall and lanky, collapses easily, needs constant propping up. It hardly ever bears fruit or flowers that truly represent its magnificence. It is easily overgrown by weeds and dies young. Give your seedling the space, the love and care and protection to emerge strong, in all its splendour, so it can bloom and bear fruit in bountiful abundance, again and again and again. Laying strong foundations will serve you well.

STOP!  Look at the eight or so major areas of your life: health and vitality, romance or significant other, personal development and growth, recreation including family and friends, physical environment, finances, career or work, emotional wellbeing.

Ask

• Where is your life unbalanced?
• Where do you need to spend more time and effort?
• What are you avoiding that will make all the difference if you address it?

Yes! That thought that just popped into your head, the one you pretended not to notice!

Find someone to help you work through that issue – a coach, a counsellor, a mentor. Doing ‘The Work’ by Byron Katie or ‘Radical Forgiveness’ by Colin Tipping, are also great places to start. It will help to work with someone you can trust and be totally open with. Someone who will respect who you are and what you represent without judging you or your actions.

That’s also a good attitude for you to adopt towards yourself. A position from where you can observe yourself dispassionately, acknowledge and appreciate yourself and stop the self attack.      

STOP!  Be patient. Rome was not built in a day. A Course Of Miracles says ‘Infinite patience produces instant results’ – What we really want is peace and if we hand over the issue to Spirit and detach from the outcome, peace is ours, instantly. The rest will show up in Divine Time.

The hardest work we will ever do is the work we do on ourselves. It’s also the most worthwhile work. The more we rid ourselves of our distorted perceptions, false blame and guilt, the more peaceful our lives will become. As we make peace with ourselves, we bring peace to the world.

So trust the process, enjoy the journey.

That’s all for now… I’ve got work to do… go practice what I preach…